Quote from the "Son of a Surrogate" Blog

Quote from the "Son of a Surrogate" Blog

It looks to me like I was bought and sold. You can dress it up with as many pretty words as you want. You can wrap it up in a silk freaking scarf. You can pretend these are not your children. You can say it is a gift or you donated your egg to the IM. But the fact is that someone has contracted you to make a child, give up your parental rights and hand over your flesh and blood child. I dont care if you think I am not your child, what about what I think! Maybe I know I am your child.When you exchange something for money it is called a commodity.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Rejection

For almost two years now I've been trying to deal with the feeling of rejection from my biological mother. I still feel extremely blessed to have found her because, it did inform me so much about myself and I got to meet a huge extended family through her. But, I still haven't figured out how to get past that feeling. As I have been reading other donor conceived blogs, and read about other donor conceived going through similar experiences or being rejected before they even got to meet their parent and or siblings it reminds me that I'm not alone. That this is just another one of the pits for third party reproduction for some of us.
My relationship with my biological mom deteriorated after some time, and the loss and rejection that I felt was extremely deep. I've tried to maintain hope that time may mend fences, but alternately trying to accept the fact that I'm not entitled to a relationship with anyone, and just to cherish the people in my life who I do have.
In life we all have relationships that end romantic relationships, friendships etc. I know that time heals those wounds, but I don't know that time is going to heal this. Are there any donor conceived out there who have been in this situation and have made it to the other side? I would love to hear from you.